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“How are you?” to which I almost every single time answer “Fine, thank you, how are you?”

Funny, that.

Well, although for the most part that answer is true, sometimes, life is both underwhelming and overwhelming at the same time. Underwhelming, because of its mundaness…and overwhelming because of the same…

As a mom of 3, and a daycare provider, I feel like I am one of the luckiest women alive. I have the privilege of hugs, snuggles and kisses whenever I desire…I get to watch those wide-eyed lovelies look at me with such wonder when I read them a story, or giggle with delight when we dance…

Sometimes though, I long for a car ride to work, where I can listen to music. I long to drink tea, without having to re-heat it thrice. I long to have a ‘bathroom break’ without hearing “mommy?” “Lizzzzzzzzzz…..where are you?” I long to wear beautiful clothes, and pretty shoes, instead of jeans and lulu’s…

(Ok, be prepared….this is a bit of a pity party)…

Instead, I do countless loads of laundry, sweep and mop floors, look over homework, make breakfast, then lunch, then dinner…..shuttle kids to and from activities…fix snacks, load and unload the dishwasher….vaccuum…it just some days seems never-ending. I want to stop, and smell the roses. Actually scratch that, never mind smelling the roses. I just want to STOP.

Sometimes, I look around me, and feel like everyone has it all SOOOO together…baking homeade bread/cookies/muffins from scratch, in spotless homes, with clean laundry, smiling kiddies…perfectly made up, with a ribbon in their hair….whilst I sit in my messy house, full of piles and piles of laundry…with everyone asking “mom, have you seen my….?” So, I run around, looking for clean socks or underwear, a favorite shirt, a lost book, or someone’s weekly reading log….and let out a little sigh…

BUT. While some days, life does seem to be overwhelming….

While some days, I do long for clean clothes and hot tea….

While some days, I crave a ‘day off’….

I think about the my family, who really need me, to do all of those things I consider mundane. Those wee men who depend on me to know where their favorite striped t-shirt or shin pads are…who think I’ve hung the moon when I find a lost DSI…and my heart smiles…

So… the next time someone asks “How are you?”…my answer will probably still be “Fine thank you, how are you?”


Comments on: "Fine thank you, how are you?" (8)

  1. Oh Liz, I just snorted/LOLed so loud you probably heard me from there! YOU are that one, the one who has it all together, who walks into McDs looking like a million bucks while I’m feeling all proud of myself that I remembered to change into a shirt that doesn’t have baby snot on it. You’re doing great, although I totally know that feeling… you should see my house after days of the kids being sick, I just want to run away from it. Never mind that I don’t own any “real” clothes anymore.

    I think we all go through those times, but like you posted about a little while ago this is only for a short period of time… I try to remind myself of that when I feel like I’m never going to get caught up on everything… I’ll blink and they’ll be teenagers, and I’ll have lots of time to fold the laundry and clean out the fridge and reorganize my junk drawer.

    In the meantime, we need to stick together, give each other support and maybe a break now and then. Looking forward to getting out on Saturday, even if it is only to SDM!

  2. I once attended one of those motivational speaker thingies – and the speaker’s opening schpeel was in regard to the answer of that very question: How are you? He claimed that everyone’s answer should be nothing less than: I’m Fantastic!!!!

    Bullshit I say. While we all can’t be negative nellies all the time, we must be honest and lean on each other for support. After all, doesn’t it make us feel a little better knowing that we’re not alone with these feelings or even seasons in time?

    Love you to bits! Keep writing….I need it.

  3. I second what Miranda said…YOU are the one who has it all together!! Your house is spotless, you always look great and this is the kicker…I have never seen you chasing after kids, yelling or doing anything that leads me to believe you are stressed… You are always so mellow…I’m jealous!!! 🙂

  4. yep, I agree with the other ladies! Liz is the master! I look to you for the inspiration to continue my trek through my version of boyland!

    You did forget on your long list of what you do in a day, the crazy get- up-before-dawn workouts that keep you looking so fabulous!

    Again, you are my inspiration! Keep up the writing, I love reading it! And thank you for reminding me about how great the little things are and that I am not the only way wading through muddy waters of motherhood!

  5. Your comments made me laugh. I think it’s hilarious that we all have the same view of each other….I look at each and every one of you, and marvel at how you do it! You all have such amazing qualities…Thanks for reading, and sharing..Kerri, I have another blog that talks about my “inner fat girl” lol…and the reason I didn’t talk about the working out, is because that is something I do just for me. Kinda selfish actually, and has nothing to do with the kids…but it does keep me sane…so maybe I’ll ‘mention’ it every once in a while, since it is a very important part of how I stay sane…

    Vanessa. You are the most level headed calm mommie I know….that my son loves you so much makes me warm and fuzzy…I am lucky to have each and every one of you in my life!!

    Bobbie, I love your comment, and yes, it is bullshit sometimes…we do need to be real with each other, I think this is the only thing that will help me make it through this stage!!

    Anyways…thanks again for sharing your thoughts!!

  6. Jackie Garrison said:

    “re-heat it thrice” HILARIOUS!!!!!! Ah a woman’s job is never done!!!!

  7. lol…you know how it is Jack Jack!

  8. It is funny how we view ourselves versus how others see us. Like the other commenters, I see you as being so put together, always on the ball, always looking FABULOUS (even in lulu’s). They say if we all put our burdens in a pile, we would pick up our own again because it’s never as bad as the other person’s. We do what we can with what we’ve got and you my dear have got it goin’ on.

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